It is difficult to describe the relationship between father and children so easily in words. A father is the only living being who can bear the pain of motherhood for ten months from mother and child for life. For all children, fathers are the first real heroes. Psychiatrist Ramanujam shares with us his understanding of the psychological issues and challenges that exist in such father-child relationships.
> What is the relationship between fathers and children in this generation; What are the psychological issues faced by both parties?
In previous generations, fathers were a strict figure in the home. When father comes into the house, the house becomes quiet and the children are afraid of him. This can be seen not only in reality but also in films, novels and stories of father characters. But that’s not the case now, 2K Kids dads are not strict but loving dads.
The psychological problem between the father and the children is the cause of many things that will happen in society in the future.
> What are the positives and negatives about 2K Kids’ attitudes toward dads compared to the father-child relationship of the 80s and 90s?
Today’s 2K Kids dads are very different compared to the dads of the 80’s and 90’s. Fathers are not strict, but they treat their children like friends. Children can talk to father without any hesitation. But that is often the cause of major problems. Dads can’t be friends all the time and in some situations it’s necessary to be strict for the best interests of the children. If that is the case, the current children cannot bear the strictness and they become mentally broken.
> What are the effects of economic conditions on the father-child relationship in the current environment? How to access this?
At that time the children trembled even to ask their father for what they needed. Perhaps if the father could not buy what he asked for, he would beg and struggle to buy it later. But now many are fathers who buy their children what they need as soon as they ask. Sometimes children are not mature enough to handle disappointment if they are not able to get what they asked for.
In today’s social environment, the expectations of children are high. The problem with children now is that they want to go beyond economic status. If they do not get what they asked for, some people engage in evil activities due to negative thoughts. For example, I have seen people who fought with their father and made a wrong decision by not buying an iPhone.
> Are fathers pushing their dreams on their children less now? Has it increased? – What should be the attitude of fathers in this matter?
It’s better now than the previous generation. Once upon a time they imposed their will to study whatever Dad wanted to study. Now it is not. A child’s desire is a parent’s desire. However, due to social pressure, some parents try to push their dreams. Competition is high during this period, so many parents expect more from their children than their abilities. Parents should be realistic about what is right for their children and should not impose their wishes. Parents should make their children understand the balance between these.
> How Should Dads Handle Digital Freedom?
Nowadays, children are not fed rice by showing the moon, they are fed rice by showing a picture on their mobile phone. We get used to that much in children. Eventually it distracts them. Social networking sites have both pros and cons. Fathers also have the responsibility to control all this. Dads should teach their kids how to use social media safely and responsibly without avoiding it altogether. Also, fathers need to spend more quality time with their children by engaging them in exercise, play, reading books, etc. from their childhood.
> As parenting becomes increasingly important in preventing rising sex crimes, what is the role of fathers?
Everyone always advises girls how to be safe and how to dress. But first the understanding of the opposite sex should be brought to the boys. Boys should be taught to respect women. It is necessary to teach them how to talk and look at them. That duty rests with fathers. He too would have passed that age. It is the solution to all sexual crimes in the society.
> What are the most common psychological issues dads face in your experience? What would you suggest as a general solution for them?
Fathers have changed a lot from previous generations who want to be a father and a good friend to their children. But even in this age, fathers cannot be hundred percent friends and should not forget that he is a father. It is very important that he should be firm and kind. Today’s children do not have the maturity to handle disappointment if they don’t get what they want and become mentally broken. A lot of pampering is also a reason for this. Giving children more money than they need can sometimes encourage them to engage in wrongdoing. They will also get stuck in some problems like drug addiction. It is the duty of the parents to take all this responsibility to their children and guide them in the right direction. Above all, fathers should set an example for their children. Good thoughts should be instilled in the child.
Today – June 18, 2023 – is Father’s Day